The same day, he wrote, ‘well when are you free? / its a bit much to explain via facebook’
I wrote, ‘I may be free on the 17th; did you want to email me?’
One minute later he asked, ‘are you busy the 16th?’
Not only are both my phone number and email address available on my Facebook page for things that are ‘a bit much to explain via facebook,’ but what would be the purpose of knowing my schedule if I hadn't committed yet? Did he expect me to drive an hour into Boston simply to hear his plans? Was this a ‘fuck-around’ project that he was trying to puff-up? You use friends for fuck-around projects, not acquaintances you met at an art event with whom you’d hope to collaborate.
Someone suggested to me that he was trying to ‘sound exclusive,’ as if his work and his time were precious, and he couldn’t be bothered to give me more information; as if it would be a privilege to work with him, and therefore I should drive an hour just to hear his magical ideas. They added that his pseudonym, which is the name of a famous, deceased artist, added to theory that he has a major ego. I just thought he sounded clueless and unprofessional, and this made me think that he wouldn’t keep our plans, even if we did set a date.
I wrote, ‘I hear there’s going to be a big storm Sunday/Monday so I’m not making concrete plans for that day, just in case; I’m an hour outside Boston.’
I expected to receive an email, a phone call – at the least, a brief Facebook message that acknowledged what I was saying, for once, and then maybe a little ‘get back to you soon.’ But no. Instead, five more days passed and it was February 17. He wrote me at 1pm on Facebook, ‘you free today?’ Two hours passed, he added, ‘well let me know when you are / im shooting with antonio.’
I wrote back, ‘I’m not free this week, sorry! I also have no idea where this is happening, and who Antonio is, and what your ideas involve. When you have the time, let me know!’
Two minutes later, I received this response, ‘oh damn you”re not free this week anymore? well alright best of luck to you and your work :)’
The whole time I wondered – would he have actually given me information if I said I was free today? Would he have told me what he was talking about? No, he probably would have given me an address and told me he’d ‘tell me in person' when I arrived – something I had experienced before.